How to Stop Settling | You Deserve More

3 Keys to the Better Life You Deserve


You deserve more.  I’m gonna put it bluntly, because it’s true.

You work hard, you do your self-work, you make a point of helping others.

Believe it or not, you are worthy of great things.

But a lot of the time, because of the challenges, or our conditioning, we refuse to believe it.

It’s time to take a closer look. Be honest with yourself. This is a lot farther than you were, but it’s not what you were dreaming of. There’s pieces missing that you’ve been hesitant to believe are possible to change for you.

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Where are you settling in life?

Do you feel loved and appreciated by the people you’ve chosen to surround yourself with?

Is your home beautiful and organized, and full of loving energy?

Are you pursuing your passion daily and seeing the rewards?

Are you feeling connection with your spirit and a clear sense of direction more often than not?

Do you have enough fun, and free time?

Do you have as much money as you’d like to?

Do you feel good about yourself, the way you move through the world, and your accomplishments?

Are you relaxed, energized, and healthy?

Are you expanding your mind, your skills, and getting creative?

 

If any of these questions gave you a shrinking feeling or made you laugh as if it were silly to expect that to happen for you… girl, you’re settling for less than you deserve.

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There are three main components that come into play.

 

 

Worthiness

First and foremost, you’re not going to take any actions to give yourself what you deserve if you don’t believe you’re worth the effort, or can let yourself accept your prizes with open appreciation.

You’ve got to remember that nobody in the world has been, or ever will be, perfect. Our “perfection” lies in our divine essence, our unique qualities, and our ability to grow and change. The most powerful transformation comes from our ability to let go of the past and move forward, and our ability to see the beauty in the hidden places in life, including in the parts of ourselves we’ve been rejecting for years.

What is it that makes you feel unworthy?

Usually it stems from ways that someone else has judged us in the past, or a way that we tend to judge the world around us.

Do you feel like you’re not worthy of unconditional love because you’ve made this mistake or that mistake and never forgiven yourself? Or maybe because of the ridiculous beauty standards shoved down our throats since childhood making us questiong our inherent lovability?

Do you feel crappy about where you’re at in life because someone (maybe even yourself) told you it wasn’t good enough for the age you are right now? Instead of encouraging you to appreciate your accomplishments and reminding you that you’re capable of anything, and helping you come up with a game plant to get to where you really want to be?

Do you just not prioritize your own worth because you’re so busy taking care of everyone else, that you’re too afraid to admit how badly you need to rest and do things for you, because if you stopped, everything would fall apart? And then you’d feel super guilty about it?

Firstly, whether your lack of prioritizing your worth is one of these, or something unique to you, you are NOT alone.

We all have some level of challenge when it comes to believing we can do this or that it’s even acceptable for use, because we’re not used to thinking we deserve it.

Our subconscious minds are filled with judgements from the people we were surrounded by when we were growing up, and these things tend to stick with us, hidden in the depths, secretly influencing what we believe about our abilities and our worth.

If you imagine yourself with a million dollars that you just earned from doing something really easy and aligned with your purpose, engaged to some otherworldly-level-of-gorgeous person who’s also super intelligent… walking into to your family’s holiday dinner, or a room full of people you went to high school with, I bet all kinds of uncomfortable scenarios start to form in your head.

This guy will be judging you out of jealousy, someone else will be judging you because they think you’re probably some kind of a fake, because they believe rich people are all just selfish jerks and con-artists. Someone else will be judging that there’s no way the relationship will last, coming up with every reason they can make up on the spot, because they feel insecure about not having attracted someone so impressive in their own life.

Our own inner judgements and insecurities about ourselves talk the same way when we start to think about the things we really want in life. And since we’ve got to believe we deserve these wonderful things in order to pursue them without giving up, it’s our job to figure out which ones we’re struggling with, and see the truth behind the judgement or lie. And the truth is always that we’re good enough, we’re lovable, we’re worthy, and we’re free to change our situation.

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Boundaries

So, once we’ve got the ide of which limiting belief we’re here to reprogram so that we can stop settling and start improving our lives, the next step is to draw a very clear line between what is acceptable and what is not.

Now, depending on what it is that you’re changing, it can look like a few different things, but it’s always going to include saying “yes” to what you’re worthy of and saying “no” to settling.
Wear the nice outfit in the back of your closet that you worry about getting dirty, so that you can feel gorgeous and abundant and magnificent.

Say no to the offer that is going to stress you out and make you feel like you’re contradicting what’s right for you.

Say YES to the opportunities that scare you, that feel risky and just beyond your reach.

Say HELL YES to the big move you’re not sure is safe to take.

Be smart, be practical, absolutely, but start DOING it!
In relationships, friendships, and partnerships, if you’re being disrespected, give an ultimatum, with a timeframe. If it’s not met, you deserve better, and you should leave. Or if it’s a really strong disrespect, just leave, girl.

If you feel stuck in a job that’s not what you actually care about and you’re miserable there, refuse to let yourself stay there any longer than you have to. Start looking for, or creating a better career for yourself, and truly dedicate yourself to it.

What you do for a living is what you spend the most hours of your life on. If you want to spend most of the hours of your life doing something more meaningful, than take it absolutely seriously, because it’s one of the most important changes you’ll ever make. Invest your time, your money, your energy, and your soul into making it real. What is it that you’d do in the world, that helps make it a better place every day, if you didn’t have to worry about money? That will give you a first glimpse into what will make you happier.

There’s no reason to be scared. There are always going to be more people, and more opportunities that are healthier for you, and more fulfilling, but you have to make room in your life for them.

Setting clear boundaries doesn’t just tell you, and also your subconscious mind, what you’re done with. It also tells the Universe. When you make it clear through your words and your actions that you are done with something in your life, whether it’s disrespect, being under-appreciated, or overworked, the Universe takes a note of that, and starts to close the doors to those energies, and open their opposites for you to stride proudly into.


Discipline (Dedication)

Ahhhh, discipline. That old friend lurking in the corner ready to smack you with a ruler if you get out of line. No, I’m just kidding. Don’t get discouraged, I’ve got something up my sleeve for ya.

That old method of crackin’ the whip may work for some people, but for me, it’s easier to work with myself, and use encouragement and goals to keep me sticking to my plan.

Discipline is one of those things in life that’s like a muscle. Even if you’ve always sucked with self-discipline (and I say this from experience, so trust me here) by taking baby-steps and working WITH yourself, you can see improvements faster than you’d expect to.

I used to be WILDLY undisciplined. Really, though. I’ve always been a wild-child, free-spirit, ethereal creature, and gypsy soul at heart. I would regularly tell time and space to suck it (and still do) but I hadn’t realized, until hitting age 29 and realizing I’d been putting off all the work I didn’t “feel like” doing towards my lofty business aspirations for literally a decade

During the majority of my 20s, although it was an absolutely beautiful journey full of potent transformation, I was caught up in a common pitfall of “law of attraction & lightworker types”… which is to accidentally get ungrounded, by following the “path of least resistance” and high vibrations and ease, instead of feeling into the path of your true calling, and grounding your soul fully, strengthening through the challenges that it comes with.

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It was then that I saw just how much I was holding myself back by not fully embracing my inner authority over my own life. I’ll be honest, it’s been very challenging for me, because I’d never done it before! But, regardless of that, I’ve made amazing progress, and it’s all thanks to redefining discipline as dedication, and taking baby steps to make things easy to integrate a little bit at a time.

I find that this works with my clients too. Every week we’ll have one main action step to take, to move them closer to their goal. It’s the one action that reminds them how dedicated they are to their path, their purpose, their improvement, and grounds it into the rhythm of their life right now, as a new steady beat coming from the heart of their soul. And because it was just one task (two if they’re really on fire) it’s manageable.

It’s still challenging, because it’s something new, it’s something important, and, since it came up in a coaching session, it’s something they’re struggling with. But, they’ve also got backup, through being reminded of WHY they’re doing this. When they feel stuck or frustrated, they’ll send me a message for that extra boost, that reminder that they decided they’re done settling for less than they deserve, and help them push through it. But we all also have the ability to be our own reminder.

The mantra that came to me this week is very simple and is working really well for me.

Just finish the sentence with what’s relevant to what you’re committed to doing in the moment.

 

“I deserve to be a disciplined woman who…”

When you’re not feeling strong in a confrontation, tell yourself:
“I deserve to be a disciplined woman who …says no to disrespect.”

Deciding what to wear to get out of couch-potato mode and feel fancy (hahaha!):
“I deserve to be a disciplined woman who …is beautiful and well groomed and decorated.”

Struggling to get yourself to work out, or choose healthy foods:
“I deserve to be a disciplined woman who …has a healthy body.”

Struggling to get yourself to do the tasks needed to create a business out of your passion:
“I deserve to be a disciplined woman who …runs a successful business that helps people.”

Struggling to let yourself take a break when you desperately need one:
“I deserve to be a disciplined woman who… values herself and her well-being.”


These three keys, when put together, will help you to stop settling, and let yourself have the wonderful life you truly deserve.

You’re a good person, you’ve got a massive heart, and I’m looking forward to seeing you dedicating yourself to being truly fulfilled and nourished, because I’ve got a feeling it’s a long time comin’.


 

What are you feeling, as you’ve been reading this, that you’re opening up to letting yourself believe you deserve, and dedicating yourself to making happen?

Looking to dig a little deeper, and have real, grounded support to help get you through?  

Learn more about the coaching and energy work that I offer


to assist you through this journey of grounding your soul,


so that you can feel more fulfillment, satisfaction, and freedom

every single day.

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North & South Nodes – The Power of You – Live Video 30 Day Challenge

The Power of You.

The strongest force in the Universe lives inside of you.

Stand strong and let it come out today.

If you didn’t catch the live-stream on Instagram announcing the Power of You live video series, to help you break free into your best life possible, from the inside out, you can still find it here in my blog.

I committed to this 30 Day Challenge doing one live video on Instagram daily, to help bring myself out of my comfort zone and into greater communication with you! 

I have so much to share with you about the tools and practices and perspectives that help to bring out the power that rests deep within each of us, so that you can live and thrive in accordance with the core of who you are, embodied to the fullest.

In this first short episode, I share the story of how the idea for this series was sparked by a magnificent coaching call with Klara Hodulakova where we dug down deep to the bottom of what had been holding me back from expressing myself fully and really letting myself shine true in my business in the way that I desperately wanted to show up.

 

 

One of the things that I realized was that my perfectionist tendencies were stopping me in my tracks left and right (sound familiar?) and every time I’d think about putting myself out there in a new way, I’d come up with twelve reasons why I didn’t know just the right strategy (only to answer her questions about how much I love to share messages through video, and love YouTube and Instagram as platforms), didn’t have the perfect lighting and equipment (when mine is perfectly suited for live video and can improve over time), and was concerned I’d run out of ideas for the the steady stream of information I’d need to share to be consistent enough (when I could literally ramble about mystical and grounded self-improvement all day every day to whoever’s listening, because let’s face it, that’s the only thing my brain is focusing on besides being in greater harmony with nature, and the occasional Disney song.)

After this realization, that my perfectionism was holding me back in such a massive way from expressing myself to the fullest to the world, when I already know that doing just that is my whole purpose and message and goal, I realized the relevance it had to my astrology, particularly my north and south nodes.

In our natal charts, our north and south nodes tell us the direction we’re meant to move toward, in our approach to life, and the opposite of it that we are starting from.  For example, my north node is in Pisces, which means that in this life, I am meant to move more towards my spiritual, trusting, intuitive nature, and to let go of my tendency to get caught up in too much of the life approach of my south node, which is in Virgo, and shows up as a tendency to deeply analyze, strategize, and have every single detail in perfect order.  To be coming away from my south node means that I’ve had an overabundance of attention to detail, and need to lighten up about the details not always being smudge-proof and lined up in nice little rows.  To trust that who I am and what I offer is good enough because of what it is, and that its appearance is not here for me to be judging.  That it is a gift from the divine, no matter what it is shaped like, and that it should be treated as such and be free to flow in its raw and natural glory.

Sometimes we need to be reminded by a mirror of how we’re not walking our talk in an area we were trying to hide from ourselves. 

No matter how many years of self-improvement we’ve had, we will always be growing and challenging ourselves in new ways, and we will always have revelations about things we didn’t realize we were doing, because we disguised it as not being ready, by limiting beliefs.  And so here I am, full force, ready to share with you SO much from the core of my being, to help you break free in more and more ways, on this exhilarating 30 day journey into The Power of You.

Be sure to follow me @_aquarian.goddess_ so you can tune in on Instagram at 5pm EST today for the next Power of You live video! I’ll give you a hint as to the next topic.  It’s something we were masters of in our childhood, but never realized would be a practical and magical force that can transform our lives today.  Any guesses? 😊🌸🍃

Expectations, Joy, and Creating Balance

I was inspired by an instagram thought-stream by Brittany Greer, where she talks about expectations.

It rang especially true for me, as expectations have been one of the most difficult and important things to be aware of in my life so far, and are truly the foundation of so much of our inner turmoil.

They’re a main focus for me, because of my sensitivity to them when they’ve been placed on me. When you think about it, any moment of displeasure, whether it’s not liking someone’s demeanor, or the choices they make, or your boss being annoyed that you’re not performing well at your job, or you just not liking your job, it’s all based on the experience being in contrast to our expectation that life is supposed to be comfortable and enjoyable.

It sounds strange when you think about it like that, but it makes sense when you break it down.

“I’m annoyed because I don’t like my job.”
-Really Means-
“I expect that jobs should be more fulfilling and enjoyable.”

In a given moment, the thing which we’re observing does not live up to our expectations. That’s the reason why we feel upset. This natural reaction shows us that on a subtle level, deep in our core, we actually expect every single thing in life to be extremely likeable. We know that something better is possible, and we’re kind of bothered that it’s not happening right now. On one hand, it’s incredible to be so in tune with our preferences, but on the other hand, well, following our preferences could easily get way out of hand, and become a toned down version of when my nieces are feeling a little too entitled.

I’ve been spending a lot of time around my nieces lately, and my sister was talking with me yesterday, asking my thoughts on why they seem to have so much trouble focusing and why they’ve been having more of an attitude lately when they aren’t getting their way.

My perspective was simple, and inspired by a conversation on how our behavior is so rooted in the way that, as children, we’re raised. Our society starts us off as small children thinking that the foundation of our everday lives, and our main goal, is simply entertainment. Seeking joy. And don’t get me wrong, seeking joy is one of the most important things that we can practice in our lives, as it will, when balanced properly, guide us to our purpose, and help us to make the right choices that will guide us to where we truly belong. But when they’re unbalanced, we become closed off, angry, depressed, or just plain spoiled rotten. So how do we prevent that? And where did it all start?

I’ll go back to the example of society and children. In our great-grandmothers’ generation, and through all of our recorded history before that, the majority of children grew up in a vastly different environment on too many levels to count. They weren’t bombarded with bright, shiny objects and loud, glowing screens full of imaginary people and stories for hours on end.

They sat in quiet homes, and in nature, with their family. The only things they had to observe around them were the daily actions that helped their family to live a stable life. They watched gardens grow. They watched homes be built with the help of the community. They sat with their mothers and fathers while they cared for animals, did the sewing, prepared the meals with plants that they understood. Their lives were slower and had an obvious purpose, were connected to the natural cycles, and their games with other children were understood to be a very small part of what they were here to be and do.

Their ability to self-discipline and follow the requests of their family were understood as being a top priority, and there was not as strong of a sense, as they developed, that their own entertainment could take over, without the household falling apart. Obviously, children are still children, and it takes time and practice and persistence to form solid healthy habits in life, but with so few distractions, and a sense of being a part of something, their relationship with the expectations placed on them was more solid, more natural, and more real.

For those of us in my generation who grew up without that upbringing, it was a little more like a swirling chaos of Nickelodeon, gameboys, and, oh, we had to go to school because they tell us to. Not a lot of parents (at least based on the conversations I’ve had with many of my peers) even strongly emphasized that being a child is training you for adulthood, in a practical way that really prepared us for things, and just kind of said that someday we’d go to college and get a job, and left the rest up to the schooling systems.

So, a lot of us floundered. A lot of us didn’t even have meals together, or do anything together as a family on a daily or weekly basis. In my home, tv was the only activity, and our dinner was eating while staring into it, without anyone learning anything about each other’s lives, or talking about what was going on in the lives of the adults. There wasn’t a natural observation of adult life that would allow me to prepare myself mentally for what it would be like to learn to balance everything, and have self discipline, feel like an important part of something, or truly learn to relate to others in a kind and healthy way. This was simply because we didn’t talk, we didn’t work together in any way, and everyone was too busy distracting themselves with the brain-candy of the moment, inbetween obligations we didn’t see a reason for (besides “I’ll get in trouble if I don’t”) and pretty much ignoring everything else.

For those of us with this kind of upbringing, it can be very difficult to look at the world we’ve just graduated into and not feel confused, irritated, lost, and overwhelmed with how many things we feel no sense of passion or purpose about, and no obvious way to figure out how to fix it. So, too many of us end up starting off by just finding a job that pays okay, and binge Netflix on the weekends because, what else is there when you don’t really wanna get up?

Then we feel cranky about our job (because we settled for it, but somehow still expect it to be perfect, instead of looking for a creative way to make a living) and we grumble that there’s nothing on Netflix (because we’ve already spent too much time on there and expect it to entertain us forever, instead of thinking about something cool we could learn, or share with the world, and trying it) and we get mad at the people around us (because we expect them to be somebody they’re not, and satisfy our need for love, understanding, fun, and intellectual stimulation, instead of giving more of those things to ourselves, and those people, for being exactly who we each are).

We expect that life should be entertaining. We expect that things should be easy. We expect that the right path will be laid out in front of us, because that’s what we’ve known moving through the world to be like. And we don’t know how to direct ourselves, because no one showed us. And we’re sincerely bothered by everything and everyone that doesn’t match what we know we need, instead of turning to ourselves to find the answers, because we don’t even realize that we have them.

Thanks to these expectations we place on others, and on our world, and even on ourselves, our judgements and the ways we hold ourselves back are born from our comfort zone, when they should be based on whether or not something (or someone) is healthy and fulfilling for us as a whole.

So, the question is… day to day, how do we find the balance?

We start by noticing our emotions, and instead of complaining or shutting something out, pausing to ask ourselves,
“What is missing from this, that makes it bother me?”

If you’re sitting at home on the weekend and feel unbearably bored, what’s missing? Is it adventure? Is it depth? Is it wanting to be a part of something? Is it creative expression? Is it love? Is it wanting to feel accomplished in the world, like you’ve done something important?

If you’re annoyed, or just kind of dismissing a person or an idea, why do you feel that way? Do they remind you of someone who hurt you before? Is it something that feels unfamiliar and maybe makes you uncomfortable to imagine yourself being a part of?

In a conversation, it might be that you feel bothered by someone being rude. Respect is missing. How can you calmly address it? Tell them gently what you noticed. If they show no interest in cocreating a peaceful interaction, it’s okay to set a boundary and walk away.

On the opposite side, in a relationship, whether work or personal, if someone is placing too many expectations on you, and you feel overwhelmed, it’s okay to let them know, and see how you can work together to create solutions, or spread out the work in a healthier way for everyone.

And in your life in general, if something you’re doing doesn’t feel fulfilling, or doesn’t feel like enough, feel it out. Take it step by step and really look at what’s important to you, and go from there. What do you care about, and why? How do you want to make a difference? What are your skills, and what are the new skills that your purpose would require?

If you’re still figuring out your path, think about what you’d want to see the world look like 20 years from now. Think about what problems in the world really hurt to think about. Think about what kinds of activities light your heart up. And think about how they could all fit together into one life.

In my coaching program, Goddess to Goddess Guidance, I take you deeply into the questions that reveal your true essence to yourself, to help you figure out what it really is that’s right for you, on your own terms, in your own way, and work week by week to make it happen, together, as you grow.

Discovering your purpose is a beautiful unfolding that breathes life into you in ways you never knew it could. And I say that from experience. The more that I’ve surrendered to not only the things that bring me the greatest joy and fulfillment, but also the challenges that appear in my path along the way, I’ve become stronger, wiser, and more free and satisfied than ever before, even though I feel like I have so far to grow. This is the journey I want for you, dear goddess, because you are a light uniquely all your own. You will find your way, and I’m always here to walk beside you, Goddess to Goddess.

All my love,

Aquarian Goddess Jen

My Secret

I have held inside of me 
 A secret,
 A swirling torrent,
 Held still in a singularity,
 Melded down into itself 
 A thousand times
 Over the course 
 Of countless patterns
 Of tingling neurons
 Leaping 
 With electric hesitation
 As my story,
 Moment by moment,
 Becomes incomplete.

I have clutched 
 The smile on my face
 So tightly
 That the bleeding heart 
 Behind it
 Began to seep through,
 Pounding against 
 The inside of my skull 
 And rattling the skeletons 
 In my closet
 So loudly
 That I 
 Almost expressed myself
 About an old dark moment
 That hasn't been released
 From the grip that holds
 Its snapping jaws 
 At arm's length,
 Away from my sight.

I am no ordinary human,
 And no more or less special 
 Than anyone you've seen
 In the faces you've avoided 
 On your street 
 On the way to the grocery.
 But I have keys and locks
 That most don't notice,
 Because, 
 Seeing all that's there
 Would bring most shoppers 
 To their knees,
 Wishing that somehow
 They could forget
 What makes us breathe,
 And take their chicken back 
 To the aisle 
 Where they still felt free.

I'm the kind of girl 
 You meet behind a counter,
 Or in an alien ship 
 Three dimensions away,
 Occasionally in the ghetto 
 With schizophrenics,
 Or by a pagan fire 
 Dancing in the rain.

Sometimes I'm in a trash house 
 In the desert,
 Or hiding under a blanket 
 On the couch.
 But my secret 
 Is always melded 
 Into everything,
 The details you don't hear,
 That I leave out.

I wrote this tonight to share with you my experience of opening.  We all have things that feel incredibly difficult to be open about, sometimes even with ourselves, but the more that we are brave enough to at least notice and feel what we’re hiding and why, the easier it will be to determine where our unexpressed story is holding us back.

What if you’re holding back the truth about what you need in a job or a relationship?  Or what if your unexpressed weird or wild or taboo side is keeping you from unleashing the most satisfying creative ways of expressing who you really are as an individual, and keeping you from getting to know yourself fully?

What if your old wounds, and other things you don’t like to think about, are keeping you in a habit of playing it safe, keeping yourself small, or settling for something that makes you wonder where you went wrong?

We have to be honest with ourselves and know our own secrets.  Only then can we begin to move forward, and be loving towards ourselves in the ways that we really need it, and be bold in the ways that we haven’t been for too long of a while.

And as always, I’m here with an open heart to remind you that you are perfect as you are, and always growing, and supporting you on your journey, Goddess to Goddess. 

All my love and appreciation,

Aquarian Goddess Jen

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Who brings out YOU?

Today, let’s talk about influence, identity, and most importantly, you.

Personally, I’m very aware that we are all walking tuning forks and chameleons, soaking up and emitting the gist of our surroundings.

We walk around picking up mannerisms, preferences, habits of thought, and through this natural phenomenon, our individual truths get smushed into different shapes for a while, until we realize it through being shown the striking contrast, usually in a rather dramatic “I don’t even recognize myself anymore!” kind of upheaval.

We’re often drawn to people who remind us of ourselves, or others we’ve felt comfortable with in the past. It’s only natural, since the person feels familiar, and we’ve created a habit of being open to that specific energy in our lives. This is good, as long as we have a healthy filter so that we don’t end up repeating mistakes of opening to someone who has qualities that are damaging.

We also have a tendency to seek out those who have qualities that we’d like to embody ourselves, and while this is healthy when done in a balanced way that keeps your truths and core values intact (while unconditionally loving ourselves along the way), it’s an image of a future self that is always under construction and usually not someone we identify as just yet, so we’ll often tweak ourselves to match the template of how THIS person got closer to where we’d like to be, and can get a bit lost in that.

The third kind of person is the real game-changer. Every now and then, you’ll meet a person who brings out YOU. They are the rare gems who just naturally bring us into a comfortable state of self-expression and feeling good in our own skins.

They may or may not be walking a similar path, they may or may not seem particularly inspiring, but that’s not what makes them so inexplicably enjoyable. You’ll know who they are because they’re not just like you, or like your ideal image of who you want to become. You’re not just picking up on qualities that you share, like you would with a mirror. They’re genuinely THEM and that energy supports you being you.

These are my favorite kinds of people. While you have a lot in common, you get really geeked about how THEM their outfit, or their art, or their way of living is. And they wanna know what makes you you. They appreciate the shit out of your unique expression, and their energy naturally directs you towards INNER expression from your core, rather than ideals and constructs and values of theirs, or society’s.

I’ve lucked out to have a couple friends like that over my lifetime. They’re the ones who you just keep a special place in your life for, who keep a special place for you in theirs.

Pay attention to these people, the ones whose unique energy supports you being what you are. This type of connection is SO life-giving, in that it releases us from the usual pressure we feel to conform to our surroundings, or our ideals, in a sea of expectation and being on guard.

Choose to surround yourself with the people who are amazed by your natural way of being, who encourage you and make you feel proud of who you are.

Give yourself the full permission to be uninhibitedly you. And those who suit you, your projects, and your personality will be able to see you, and be a part of your wonderfully unique life.

Who we naturally are is PERFECTLY suited to our purpose, and as long as we put our genuine hearts and wills out into the world every day, we WILL create the lives we’ve been dreaming of. It’s only a matter of consistent, authentic, soul-inspired action, as we go forward through time.

And if you need a friend or a helping hand along the way, you know I’ve got you, Goddess to Goddess.

All my love,

Aquarian Goddess Jen

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An alternative perspective on: Why you aren’t where you’d like to be

1. There’s a bigger picture.

What you’re wanting might be one small piece of a puzzle that will change your whole life years from now. Diving deeply into creating, or teaching, or immersing yourself in one path might prevent you from a whole variety of world views or experiences that transform you in ways that you can hardly begin to imagine yourself to be. Everything is temporary. Just like the 80s, and the lifespan of your favorite cat, things will always complete a cycle and become something new with the passing of time.

Your current experience of spirituality will evolve as new ideas reach you. Your entire outlook is likely only a distant cousin of the one you had ten years ago. Your current approach might not fit your future nature.

There is so much that I look back on and think, “wow, if I’d only known who I’d be a year from then, I’d know why that didn’t work out.” We are always on the verge of a breakthrough or transformation, and when we’re heading a certain direction, we never know what The Universe is going to surprise us with that changes us from the ground up.

Considering that what you’re desperately attached to, the path you’re taking towards the goal that you neeeed to work out with a exasperation and pain… miiiiight not be the best option, will open up access to the ideas and possibilities that would fit who you’re becoming like a glove.

2. Impatience, escapism, and perfectionism…

They hold us back more than we know. We want to be the brightest and purest lights, the most dedicated, the most free, the most accomplished in our ideal sacred profession. We want to notice only the things that we feel good about. And it causes us to overlook a lot.

Where we are now is not an accident. What does this place have to teach us, that will help us to create a stable future that has room for all the flexibility we need as individuals, while embracing the reality of our position unconditionally? What do we participate in on a daily basis that helps us to move forward in a way that supports us as a whole?

3. Influence and Intimidation

We are surrounded by people with opinions.

This spiritual teacher says this, my friends think that, my heart wants this, my rational mind thinks I’m a cuckoo bird. What do I do?

You look at two things:

  1. What’s healthiest and most fulfilling for you long term, and…
  2. What is the most steady path to get you there without sacrificing your values.

Everyone thinks that they know what’s best for those around them, but these are merely birdsong around a tree. Feel into your depth of your roots for answers, and feel how beautiful sweet blossoms can ripen fruits at the height of your being as you focus on nourishing yourself from your center.

We are so much more than who we are in this moment. And when we embrace that the version of ourselves we see in the mirror on this day, is evolving in accordance with our sacred inner truth… we find the strength to lead ourselves in new directions. With a sense of wholeness, regal prowess, and integrity.

Be well, my fellow life-shapers.

And as always, I am here with you, Goddess to Goddess.

All my love,

Aquarian Goddess Jen

Nurture Your Purpose

Today’s thoughts are about fulfillment.  The deep kind.  The “I’ve made a positive change in the lives of many, using the skills that resonate with my soul, and am deeply appreciated for it,” type of fulfillment we all yearn for.

Today, I watched a livestream on Facebook of my Reiki master  (and yoga and belly dance teacher) cutting the ribbon and being welcomed by officials of the city to the brand new location for their wellness center.  My life changed the moment I first encountered them.  Naturally, seeing this had brought tears to my eyes.

This beautiful moment was not long after another one, where I was watching Katya Turner at indigodiaries.com and feeling the usual joyous rush that her videos give me towards sharing my own gifts in flow, and that, too, occured just a bit before seeing a bright and shiny post on Facebook by Leija Turunen, who was a massive inspiration for me in past years.

Seeing these women who affect so many people through their sharing of helpful perspectives (clearly including me) and sharing what their journeys have brought them… it lights me up inside, and it also gives me that contrast… feeling how strongly I want to have that impact on a larger scale, and realizing I am equally capable.  Something each of us should take note of right now.  We are capable.  And there is one small thing that creates the foundation.

Consistent focus is the key.

It’s all about consistent focus, and small actions.  We get these big goals that can seem so far away, but when we break it down, we see it’s just a series of small, simple steps that are actually easy.

In general, for a plant to grow, it needs to have moist soil and sunshine pretty regularly.  Multiple times a week.  My project, for example, is similarly simple.  I need to put helpful and inspiring info into some form, and then put it in places where the right people can see it.  It’s part of a much bigger dream, which involves eventual permaculture and eco building workshops and retreats, complete with Reiki certification and delving into one’s own evolution in a magical and nurturing cosmic-love tribe… but these are the first steps to building foundations, and so that’s all I need to focus on in order to make progress.  But, reaching further into the light and deepening your roots is a constant process, so, sometimes we need to add some extra nutrients to the soil, and get creative.

Currently, working full time and healing myself allows for me to write about once a week without it becoming a drain on me.

But if I am to truly reach more of the right people, I must strive for more in a way that will suit me.  So, I hire my best friend to help with marketing, and I start making plans to do videos, to add to my blog, and to youtube, as it is the platform that most inspires me.  This extends my reach without draining me, and allows me to help someone I care about to make a little extra money.  Aaaaand it increases my enthusiasm for the project, and makes me suddenly part of a team.  It’s all winning aaaaall around.

So, here is the real question?  What is your fulfillment capable of becoming?  How do you see yourself nurturing a project on a weekly basis to improve the lives of others?  What is making your soul sing, out of all the things that you’ve pondered?

I know there is something in there, and you’re going to make it shine.  You’re going to water your little garden, place it in the light of your focus, and be more than amazed at what grows.  And if you need a friend along the way, I’ve always got you, Goddess to Goddess. 

All my love,

Aquarian Goddess Jen

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