Are you Committed to your Soul or to your Struggle?

This is a powerful question to ask yourself.

Not just once, but as you go about the day.

As you’re making your choices, what is your main motivator?

Is it your belief that God, Spirit, The Universe, Your Higher Self… is guiding you and has your back?

Or is it the false idea, the limiting belief, that yesterday’s struggles are somehow glued to you through tomorrow?

Your committment is the glue that sticks a situation to you. Release from the committment and you’re free. Commit to a new goal, or a new path, and it’s yours. Simple as that. Simple doesn’t mean easy, it just means simple. You’ve got to hold something you’ve glued together for a while to make sure that it sticks. Glue takes a while to dry.

 

 

 

I’ve spent plenty of time committed to the struggle too, so I definitely feel ya. Two years ago, I was deep in it. I’d come home from an office job that was just to pay the bills, that stressed me out to the point where I was getting sick all the time and felt so drained I had no interest in anything.

It was one of those jobs where the boss is a good guy, but yelled and swore at everyone. As an empath and a highly sensitive person, I just could not take it. It was the kind of job that makes a person like me cry in the bathroom.

When I’d get home, I’d put the quickest food possible into a pot or in the oven, and zone out to Netflix with the only free time I had (which felt like none even though it was hours). My health was SO far out of whack from stress affecting my hormones (which control SO many things in the body) that most of my money went towards seeing a naturopath to fix it.  I knew my everyday life was making me really unhappy, but I was very good at distracting myself from it, as a way to cope with that fact that I didn’t think I could change it any time soon.

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Sometimes you can’t see how far you’ve strayed from your path until you put down your favorite form of distraction.

I was so focused on improving my health with the little energy I had, but here’s the thing. My lifestyle was throwing me back out of whack every time I’d get back in it. I was so committed to this job that was slowly killing me, and to the coping mechanisms (escaping through entertainment) that I used to try and unwind, and felt so unstable that I was afraid, SO afraid to risk losing that sense of foundation. Even though it was crumbling under me, and taking me down with it.

My lifestyle, and my committment to my struggle, were what needed fixing.

Does any of this sound familiar? Because the more people I talk to, the more people I see scared to take leaps of faith (big or small) to start to root their foundation in their soul, with the support of the universe, instead of being committed to the struggle of going against what’s actually healthy for them.

Leaps of faith don’t have to be massive. They can be as simple as looking at what’s out of alignment with your inner truth, and changing one small thing at a time to get closer to it.

There is a divine blueprint, a path laid out by your soul before you come here, and you can find it by feeling into what lights you up, vs. what shuts you down. Our lives are a combination of fate and free will. This path is always laid out for us, but it’s up to us to align with it, and choose to walk it.

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There is a unique path just for you, divinely designed for your truest fulfillment.

For my journey, it took me some time to make the changes, but I took things one step at a time. I got a job that seemed more chill at first, doing office work from home. It gave me the opportunity to invest in coaching for the first time, and start REALLY building the spiritual coaching & energy work business I’d been dabbling with for three years. Investing in myself and in my soul’s purpose was the most powerful that I’d ever done. Having someone there to encourage and guide me back to my own center, keep me focused on my goals so I woudn’t give up or completely change paths (like I’d done over and over again before that).

I was finally starting to GROUND what my life had been teaching me and preparing me for for all these years. And YES, it was still a struggle. My job at that time started getting more and more stressful. I stopped and started a handful of times to rest and recenter, but never truly gave up. And over the course of only a year, I had gained so much confidence, had learned to trust myself to be able to make a living in a way that didn’t murder me in the face all week, but actually aligned me deeper with my core so that I could help others in the way that I knew I was meant to.

It started getting exciting to be alive again, because I had calls lined up with wonderful people who I was helping to line up with their path in the same way that I had been lining up with mine. These were people who were thanking me for our coaching sessions giving them the clarity and courage to do things like going on adventures to Alaska to find themselves after years in the corporate world, or realizing completely new ways that they could put their love of transformational festivals, retreats, shamanic plant medicines, and sound healing together into event ideas that were completely unique to their path and gifts to share with the world.

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Ganesh: Remover of Obstacles

I started to become so lit up, and inspired. And even though I was still working that office job that was getting crazy stressful as they kept adding more to my plate and speeding up the pace, and making me sick again, I was on fire. I started doing more and more in my free time because I was determined to transition out of it. I was ready for a new environment and to be in my own element again.

I started doing reiki and readings on a psychic hotline type of website. I started collaborating with websites that were reaching out to me as I kept sharing my message. I had some money saved up and decided when I got really sick one week, that I couldn’t keep doing that to myself, I had to let go of that job. That was a major turning point for me. I had become so committed to my purpose that it was starting to replace the crumbling foundation that I was refusing to let take me down this time.

I kept taking step after step… writing, coaching, reiki & intuitive energy work, readings. Helping people. Empowering people. Inspiring people to be who they’re meant to be more strongly. Feeling into what I truly needed right then. And trusting. Letting go of the fears one by one, and trusting.

And then, as you’ll find happens when you commit to aligning with your soul’s true path… everything started falling into place.

I moved to Asheville this past week. Through focusing on alignment and taking action with INTENSE determination, it only took me a week to sort out the details, pack, travel, and feel at home. Never before in my life could I have set everything up and moved in a week. It was one of those situations where you look back and realize that we’re all capable of so much more than we realize when we step into alignment with our souls, our spirit, our inner being, and allow it to flow no matter what challenges come up.

I connected with the perfect roomies to live with who became instant friends. The perfect spa to be a part of. And got started on a new program with my own coach to really make the most of this powerful transition and first steps into this next incredible phase of my life.

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So, I have to ask you… what is your committment to?

Your struggle or your soul?

Are you trusting and aligning, or suffering because you’re too afraid to let go of what’s dragging you down?

What in your lifestyle needs to be nudged back into alignment that’s been throwing you out of whack? What committments need to be broken altogether? And what new ones can we start to put into place?
I’m ALWAYS here to support you and guide you, into your own truth, so that you can show up, and ground your purpose, and make the impact that you’re here to make in the world.

Message me here for a free consult. I’d love to help you gain clarity and the courage to make a change.

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How to Stop Settling | You Deserve More

3 Keys to the Better Life You Deserve


You deserve more.  I’m gonna put it bluntly, because it’s true.

You work hard, you do your self-work, you make a point of helping others.

Believe it or not, you are worthy of great things.

But a lot of the time, because of the challenges, or our conditioning, we refuse to believe it.

It’s time to take a closer look. Be honest with yourself. This is a lot farther than you were, but it’s not what you were dreaming of. There’s pieces missing that you’ve been hesitant to believe are possible to change for you.

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Where are you settling in life?

Do you feel loved and appreciated by the people you’ve chosen to surround yourself with?

Is your home beautiful and organized, and full of loving energy?

Are you pursuing your passion daily and seeing the rewards?

Are you feeling connection with your spirit and a clear sense of direction more often than not?

Do you have enough fun, and free time?

Do you have as much money as you’d like to?

Do you feel good about yourself, the way you move through the world, and your accomplishments?

Are you relaxed, energized, and healthy?

Are you expanding your mind, your skills, and getting creative?

 

If any of these questions gave you a shrinking feeling or made you laugh as if it were silly to expect that to happen for you… girl, you’re settling for less than you deserve.

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There are three main components that come into play.

 

 

Worthiness

First and foremost, you’re not going to take any actions to give yourself what you deserve if you don’t believe you’re worth the effort, or can let yourself accept your prizes with open appreciation.

You’ve got to remember that nobody in the world has been, or ever will be, perfect. Our “perfection” lies in our divine essence, our unique qualities, and our ability to grow and change. The most powerful transformation comes from our ability to let go of the past and move forward, and our ability to see the beauty in the hidden places in life, including in the parts of ourselves we’ve been rejecting for years.

What is it that makes you feel unworthy?

Usually it stems from ways that someone else has judged us in the past, or a way that we tend to judge the world around us.

Do you feel like you’re not worthy of unconditional love because you’ve made this mistake or that mistake and never forgiven yourself? Or maybe because of the ridiculous beauty standards shoved down our throats since childhood making us questiong our inherent lovability?

Do you feel crappy about where you’re at in life because someone (maybe even yourself) told you it wasn’t good enough for the age you are right now? Instead of encouraging you to appreciate your accomplishments and reminding you that you’re capable of anything, and helping you come up with a game plant to get to where you really want to be?

Do you just not prioritize your own worth because you’re so busy taking care of everyone else, that you’re too afraid to admit how badly you need to rest and do things for you, because if you stopped, everything would fall apart? And then you’d feel super guilty about it?

Firstly, whether your lack of prioritizing your worth is one of these, or something unique to you, you are NOT alone.

We all have some level of challenge when it comes to believing we can do this or that it’s even acceptable for use, because we’re not used to thinking we deserve it.

Our subconscious minds are filled with judgements from the people we were surrounded by when we were growing up, and these things tend to stick with us, hidden in the depths, secretly influencing what we believe about our abilities and our worth.

If you imagine yourself with a million dollars that you just earned from doing something really easy and aligned with your purpose, engaged to some otherworldly-level-of-gorgeous person who’s also super intelligent… walking into to your family’s holiday dinner, or a room full of people you went to high school with, I bet all kinds of uncomfortable scenarios start to form in your head.

This guy will be judging you out of jealousy, someone else will be judging you because they think you’re probably some kind of a fake, because they believe rich people are all just selfish jerks and con-artists. Someone else will be judging that there’s no way the relationship will last, coming up with every reason they can make up on the spot, because they feel insecure about not having attracted someone so impressive in their own life.

Our own inner judgements and insecurities about ourselves talk the same way when we start to think about the things we really want in life. And since we’ve got to believe we deserve these wonderful things in order to pursue them without giving up, it’s our job to figure out which ones we’re struggling with, and see the truth behind the judgement or lie. And the truth is always that we’re good enough, we’re lovable, we’re worthy, and we’re free to change our situation.

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Boundaries

So, once we’ve got the ide of which limiting belief we’re here to reprogram so that we can stop settling and start improving our lives, the next step is to draw a very clear line between what is acceptable and what is not.

Now, depending on what it is that you’re changing, it can look like a few different things, but it’s always going to include saying “yes” to what you’re worthy of and saying “no” to settling.
Wear the nice outfit in the back of your closet that you worry about getting dirty, so that you can feel gorgeous and abundant and magnificent.

Say no to the offer that is going to stress you out and make you feel like you’re contradicting what’s right for you.

Say YES to the opportunities that scare you, that feel risky and just beyond your reach.

Say HELL YES to the big move you’re not sure is safe to take.

Be smart, be practical, absolutely, but start DOING it!
In relationships, friendships, and partnerships, if you’re being disrespected, give an ultimatum, with a timeframe. If it’s not met, you deserve better, and you should leave. Or if it’s a really strong disrespect, just leave, girl.

If you feel stuck in a job that’s not what you actually care about and you’re miserable there, refuse to let yourself stay there any longer than you have to. Start looking for, or creating a better career for yourself, and truly dedicate yourself to it.

What you do for a living is what you spend the most hours of your life on. If you want to spend most of the hours of your life doing something more meaningful, than take it absolutely seriously, because it’s one of the most important changes you’ll ever make. Invest your time, your money, your energy, and your soul into making it real. What is it that you’d do in the world, that helps make it a better place every day, if you didn’t have to worry about money? That will give you a first glimpse into what will make you happier.

There’s no reason to be scared. There are always going to be more people, and more opportunities that are healthier for you, and more fulfilling, but you have to make room in your life for them.

Setting clear boundaries doesn’t just tell you, and also your subconscious mind, what you’re done with. It also tells the Universe. When you make it clear through your words and your actions that you are done with something in your life, whether it’s disrespect, being under-appreciated, or overworked, the Universe takes a note of that, and starts to close the doors to those energies, and open their opposites for you to stride proudly into.


Discipline (Dedication)

Ahhhh, discipline. That old friend lurking in the corner ready to smack you with a ruler if you get out of line. No, I’m just kidding. Don’t get discouraged, I’ve got something up my sleeve for ya.

That old method of crackin’ the whip may work for some people, but for me, it’s easier to work with myself, and use encouragement and goals to keep me sticking to my plan.

Discipline is one of those things in life that’s like a muscle. Even if you’ve always sucked with self-discipline (and I say this from experience, so trust me here) by taking baby-steps and working WITH yourself, you can see improvements faster than you’d expect to.

I used to be WILDLY undisciplined. Really, though. I’ve always been a wild-child, free-spirit, ethereal creature, and gypsy soul at heart. I would regularly tell time and space to suck it (and still do) but I hadn’t realized, until hitting age 29 and realizing I’d been putting off all the work I didn’t “feel like” doing towards my lofty business aspirations for literally a decade

During the majority of my 20s, although it was an absolutely beautiful journey full of potent transformation, I was caught up in a common pitfall of “law of attraction & lightworker types”… which is to accidentally get ungrounded, by following the “path of least resistance” and high vibrations and ease, instead of feeling into the path of your true calling, and grounding your soul fully, strengthening through the challenges that it comes with.

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It was then that I saw just how much I was holding myself back by not fully embracing my inner authority over my own life. I’ll be honest, it’s been very challenging for me, because I’d never done it before! But, regardless of that, I’ve made amazing progress, and it’s all thanks to redefining discipline as dedication, and taking baby steps to make things easy to integrate a little bit at a time.

I find that this works with my clients too. Every week we’ll have one main action step to take, to move them closer to their goal. It’s the one action that reminds them how dedicated they are to their path, their purpose, their improvement, and grounds it into the rhythm of their life right now, as a new steady beat coming from the heart of their soul. And because it was just one task (two if they’re really on fire) it’s manageable.

It’s still challenging, because it’s something new, it’s something important, and, since it came up in a coaching session, it’s something they’re struggling with. But, they’ve also got backup, through being reminded of WHY they’re doing this. When they feel stuck or frustrated, they’ll send me a message for that extra boost, that reminder that they decided they’re done settling for less than they deserve, and help them push through it. But we all also have the ability to be our own reminder.

The mantra that came to me this week is very simple and is working really well for me.

Just finish the sentence with what’s relevant to what you’re committed to doing in the moment.

 

“I deserve to be a disciplined woman who…”

When you’re not feeling strong in a confrontation, tell yourself:
“I deserve to be a disciplined woman who …says no to disrespect.”

Deciding what to wear to get out of couch-potato mode and feel fancy (hahaha!):
“I deserve to be a disciplined woman who …is beautiful and well groomed and decorated.”

Struggling to get yourself to work out, or choose healthy foods:
“I deserve to be a disciplined woman who …has a healthy body.”

Struggling to get yourself to do the tasks needed to create a business out of your passion:
“I deserve to be a disciplined woman who …runs a successful business that helps people.”

Struggling to let yourself take a break when you desperately need one:
“I deserve to be a disciplined woman who… values herself and her well-being.”


These three keys, when put together, will help you to stop settling, and let yourself have the wonderful life you truly deserve.

You’re a good person, you’ve got a massive heart, and I’m looking forward to seeing you dedicating yourself to being truly fulfilled and nourished, because I’ve got a feeling it’s a long time comin’.


 

What are you feeling, as you’ve been reading this, that you’re opening up to letting yourself believe you deserve, and dedicating yourself to making happen?

Looking to dig a little deeper, and have real, grounded support to help get you through?  

Learn more about the coaching and energy work that I offer


to assist you through this journey of grounding your soul,


so that you can feel more fulfillment, satisfaction, and freedom

every single day.

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Of Spirit & Earth – How to Tune in to Nature’s Cycles

We are infinite.  Sacred beings.  Born of stardust and molten rock.  Swirling tides and the passion between lips.  We move in spirals with the seasons and the skies, and we tend to forget the magick that pours through our essence.  It is time to remember.

I’d like to share this with you, as I’ve had a powerful impact from this song since I was about sixteen. It sinks me deeply into my universal awareness, observing participation with archetypes of my cyclical flowing pagan roots, and an experience of the beauty of what it means to bridge earth and spirit in the midst of the infinite.  

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Listen to: Gaia Consort – Drawing Down the Moon

Ritual.  Bring it into your life.  In ways small and large.  In harmony with your essence, and touching the existence we were born of, whether by the cycles of the moon, or the sun, or the seasons, or simply reaching into the mystery of night with a candle and smiling into the infinite potential that you are here to activate for yourself.

Let your intentions for your life become a sacred moment.  Sit down.  Tell the Universe what you want to create.  Ask for guidance and insight.  And listen.

Tune this moment into the cycles of nature in whatever way feels natural.  I write my intentions at either the full or new moon, based on how I’m guided, send energy into them over the month, and then release them with pure trust to the Universe by fire, outside, under the light, or the shadow, knowing that they will be born in accordance with the flow that is needed in my life, and all of life around me.

And at times, I simply draw down the energy of the full moon, grounding it into the earth with the intention of illumination and harmony.  For All of Life.  Rippling out from the place where I stand, like a silver liquid pool, ever-expanding.

Whatever you choose to do, let it be your own.  In alignment with your inner truth and knowing.  And know that as you go, I am always walking beside you, a sister honored to be a part of your journey, and share in our sacred wisdom, Goddess to Goddess.

Bright blessings,

Jennifer Rae

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